Sandy K:
Welcome. Sorry for your parents’ ordeals but they are forunate to have a caring person on their side in you. Find out all you can (here and elsewhere) and share it with them as and when they feel up to hearing about it. A stoma nurse might be of some help in getting your mother to come to grips with her new appliance.
The chemo will perhaps advance the appreciation and appropriation of her condition – of necessity if nothing else. The bumps in the recovery road are not at all pleasant and perhaps she just needs time to come to grips with the fact that her life is a new normal that is different – but can be very good. It may take some time. Perhaps you are all the support she can take at the moment and maybe all she needs and can accept. We’re all different and some of us need little support – or think we do. But this journey is so much better with shoulders to lean on and in her own time she may come to that. At four or so months post op she is still in the early days, especially since she is now doing chemo which will knock some of the stuffing out of her.
Hang in there. And take care of dad and yourself!
